Hold up. So you're not an only child? Is your brother your only other sibling?
Yeah, older brother by a year and a half.
Yeah, older brother by a year and a half.
People were jealous and started saying nasty things about her. She could see them in my inbox, and then even when I stopped letting her see, she knew what was going on and why I was refusing to let her see :/
I am a red head, in fact. Half of my relatives live in Norway (I’m half Norwegian). Red heads tend to be more headstrong, so it’s possible that more would be dominant…
If I take someone in, I’ll say that I’m no longer looking, but I won’t post details until much later in the relationship. If you search the archives you’ll see the terrible shit people sent me the last time I found someone, and that messed with her anxiety something awful.
The whole point of this kind of relationship is to see her happy. Suffering for me is but one of the things she does to make me happy, and that makes her happy.
Not really. I’ve yet to have anyone recognize me, and if I did, it would be cool to meet like-minded people.
No. I’ll keep certain details if I think they’ll overload her, but I won’t hide any part of my life.
I’ve been to England before. I’m going with my brother and father. I’ll be landing in Paris, heading to Cologne, and then north to Norway via Denmark.
I’ve met a number of submissives whom I think could have worked out well, but all too often their circumstances won’t allow them relocate even for a short time.
You look a little worried, honey!
Lol that’s true :)
I do like to read, yes. My interests are eclectic, but the majority of my topics of choice touch upon history, anthropology, and psychology. I like piecing together the patterns that describe how the world and its inhabitants work.
I do like horses but haven’t ridden in a long time. I’ll probably start up soon after returning from Europe this Summer.
I have a garden, but haven’t had the time to tend one this year, unfortunately.
I LOVE classical music. That’s half the reason I play classical guitar.
I get a fair bit of correspondence from women. I don’t post those online, though; they’re private conversations.
Would you take someone who doesn’t excite you sexually?
Would that even be remotely fair to them, knowing not only that you settled for them, but also that you don’t really want to fuck them and just do it out of obligation to the relationship?
That does not a happy couple make.
I still remember as a child watching the evil guy kidnapping the girl and tying her up and always found myself rooting for him.
I think part of the problem is that people feel threatened by what I say.
But the thing is, I write the way I do so that only the people who resonate with me will follow. The girl I seek is in that much smaller crowd. 35,000 may not be a whole lot, but it’s a good start!
Capricorn I think. It was something different until they changed the dates around.
Aryanism is an odious philosophy that the world would be better off without.
I started programming at age 8, learned basic, then digital logic and assembly and C, and then received formal training in college.
And no, conditioning a woman is not even remotely the same as conditioning a spy. It’s more akin to conditioning a pet. I make her suffer for me as well because I’m a sadist.
I don’t like a lot of blood. A little bit seeping out from welts is cool though.
For a submissive, the natural state is passivity and obedience. The rest comes through training. I free her mind from the puritanical chains she’s been enveloped in and teach her how best to serve me. I free her from judgment.
I’m not sure where this “bleeding” business comes from, and no, I’m neither a doctor nor a nurse.
Then I’m not the one to win your trust and heart.
I won’t change who I am.
It’s best yo keep your valuables hidden away.
Yes, I do like “getting to know period” better, and as you say, that process never actually ends. But it’ll never start, either, until you’re together physically. You can never truly know someone over the airwaves.
She knows to be very careful with her aim.
TBH I’m not too comfortable calling it an “initiation” process. It’s most definitely not that. I’m not asking her to prove herself in some way. What I’m proposing is, after getting to know each other enough, to live together for a short period of time EXACTLY as it would be if she were already owned and living with me permanently.
I mean, if you want to know if it will work out or not (for BOTH parties), is that not an efficient way to do it?
Nope, I won’t tone it down one iota.
I won’t hide who I am. You get no surprises with me.
This is what I am. Take it or leave it.
I get the feeling that these are all a rush of angry words from the same person.
Take a chill pill, relax, and move along to another corner of Tumblr that’s more friendly to your views. You’ll feel better for it.
My my, what bigoted words you offer me!
First you insult my lifestyle, then you portray the girl as mentally deficient because she doesn’t share your opinions.
You either allow women to choose how to live their lives or you don’t. You can’t have it both ways.
To you it might sound like a worthless effort. But then again I’m not targeting you so it hardly maters.
The rest of your ask is pure bile, and not worth responding to.
I have a daughter who lives in Japan with her mother. The only role my sub would play in her life is if, as she gets older, she wants to come to Canada for a visit. This part of my life would not be hidden from her.
Reposting a 3-part ask because it’s more convenient to have it all in one post (Tumblr’s length restriction is annoying)
I feel like what may help people like the previous anon is considering the fact that on one hand you have sadists but on the other side you have masochists who need the things sadists offer. It’s a two-way street. I guess from an outsider’s perspective it doesn’t really make sense to hurt someone you love but it’s an intimate experience. Like, I wouldn’t feel okay with just anyone whipping me etc. But an intimate partner? Yes, please. Also, it’s consensual so there’s not much to argue about.
And there’s an ocean of different reasons why someone - as a masochist -
would want their partner(s) to do these things to them. Like, you know
you’re making your partner(s) feel good, you’re exploring this hidden
side of yourself that enjoys pain as a spice that makes the pleasure
sweeter, you offer yourself to a person (or persons) you love and you
put so much vulnerable trust into their hands and that strengthens the
bond, the marks make you feel special because they did them, and the marks also make you feel special because the partner(s) took the
time and effort to make them (it’s like buying someone a necklace for
them to wear to be reminded of your affections, but the bruises etc.
feel more personal, I think), you see the sadist(s) in this vulnerable
state - you see the part of them that the world largely shames and it
adds to the intimacy, and many more reasons. That’s my take on it at
A dietary requirement is a dietary requirement. I’m not going to force someone to eat something they’re allergic to or their body reacts badly to.
I think the problem is that most people seem to separate the “fantasy” aspect of such a relationship from the “real life” aspect. I don’t. It’s all the same thing.
If you’ve seen nothing about comfort & giving, then you haven’t been trying very hard. Your tone is disrespectful, but perhaps something good will come of my answer so I’ll post anyway.
The deeper my love and the more I care about her, the more I want her to suffer for me. The more I want to rip into her soul. The more I want to see her tears. The more I want to break her. The more I want to own her.
If I don’t care about someone, I don’t want to hurt them, or have anything to do with them for that matter. Torture is an intimate act, and I won’t be intimate with someone I don’t care about.
My love and care also make me want to build her up and protect her and bring her structure and discipline. This kind of relationship takes a LOT of work. Submissives have very specific and high maintenance needs that most people can’t handle. If I didn’t care about her, what would be the point of investing the time and effort?
It’s always gratifying to have the right tools for the job.
You’ll come out when I want to use you; not before.
I might marry her if it’ll simplify things enough with regards to governments, taxes, travel, wills and such. But I don’t believe in any power of marriage to hold a relationship together (especially nowadays when divorce has become so common and humdrum). Neither marriage nor children held me to my last vanilla relationship. I believe in my own power.
Age limit is at least a year younger than me. Full stop. I don’t care if I miss out on an opportunity. If I worried about everything I could miss, I’d never make a decision or take a risk, and I most certainly wouldn’t be where I am today.
No guts, no glory.
That’s my good girl.
You won’t need those for what I’ve got planned.
Serving her purpose.
I have a certain hold over her.
You can lightly steam them without destroying the nutrients. That makes them softer and easier to eat for some people. Alternatively, the “baby” versions are usually much softer and a little sweeter.
I actually like them raw. Usually I just put some balsamic vinegar on them, and sometimes a little olive oil. Mixing variety (a mix of spinach, kale, lettuce, spring greens, etc) makes things more interesting. Putting in tomatoes and sprouts and mushrooms and maybe pine nuts or walnuts also enhances the flavor a lot. A side of kimchi or the like is very good. It’s also nice to have your protein (lamb, beef, buffalo, whatnot) on top of a bed of greens.
First cherries of the season!
Just so you know, I’m not singling you out with this; I just want to rant a bit.
It seems that there’s an idea floating around about a “perfect” D/s relationship. An idea that if you could just embody this particular list of traits and abilities, you’ll do okay. And if not, well, you’re at a disadvantage (if you’ll ever find someone at all). Of course the ironic part is that, even though so many seem to believe in this ideal, nobody can quite say what the actual list entails.
When I deal with a submissive, I’m dealing with a person. She’s going to have issues, because all submissives do. She’s going to fuck things up, she’s going to have anxiety, she’s going to have phobias, things she’s absolutely terrible at, demons & regrets, a less than stellar past, worries and melt downs, and we’re only just getting started. She may have other complications, like epilepsy or cancer or poor circulation or deaf-mute or schizophrenia or a heart condition or depression or any myriad possibility. It’s called being human.
When you look online at all these pictures of perfect BDSM scenes and perfect stories and perfect anecdotes and perfect love letters between sub and dom, there’s a BIG part of a dominant’s role that is too often overlooked: Care.
Care means a lot of things. It means actually giving a damn what happens to her. It means wanting her to live a good life. It means supporting her where she’s weak. It means being there for her when she breaks down. It means taking time out to tell her you love her. It means understanding her limits and approaching them with compassion. And I’m not talking BDSM oriented limits; I’m talking about her limits in life. I’m talking about illness or injury or depressive episodes or even just a bad day and feeling overwhelmed.
We’re all human, and our needs are all unique. When I take a submissive, I may be in charge, but we’re still in this together. The rules I lay down are specific to HER. The training I do is specific to HER. There is no One True Way™ that I just bend her into. It’s a dance. It’s life. Life is messy and exciting and even bizarre sometimes, yet it always finds a way to go outside of your expectations. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Of course I’d be more gentle. I don’t want her condition to worsen.
Are you feeling it yet, honey?
What good girls do.
Aww! You’re so cute!
That’s my good girl.
Because you’re MINE.
I love summer!