Can I still apply or is it too late? Did you collar her? Is she on Tumblr?
She is wearing my training collar. I won’t consider others.
She is wearing my training collar. I won’t consider others.
Shhhhh… There’s a good girl…
Even your breath is mine
You have no say about her.
Your judgments won’t reach her.
I own her. You cannot harm her.
True D/s is completely impossible without empathy. What outsiders see as abuse is an exchange of responsibilities. But these exchanges cut so deeply and intimately that they become incomprehensible and scary to outsiders, and what we fear we demonize and denounce and suppress.
Even when it’s explained, it’s still difficult to reach an understanding. Bondage, discipline and domination are all means to restrict choice, and this causes much consternation in our modern society that reveres empowerment, agency, self sufficiency, and equality. It’s damn near impossible to explain to them how a submissive feels anywhere from anxiety to abject terror at making such responsibility-inducing choices on her own. Forget explaining the freedom she feels when those choices and responsibilities are taken away!
So yes, from the outside what we do is abuse, plain and simple. And that makes us monsters, skulking about waiting for innocent victims to destroy. The only way to see the truth is to look with eyes unclouded by prejudice.
If he owns you, wants you, and won’t let you go, then it isn’t your choice, is it?
It’s his choice, and his responsibility. You need only obey him. But by the same token, he’s taking you along with everything that comes with you. And that means that it’s on him to be patient where necessary.
Aspire to be the kind of man she can’t help but fall to her knees and worship.
Yes, it’s a tricky situation because they haven’t effectively communicated their needs. This is in fact the reason why I say no kids up front. We have to be clear about our needs and expectations.
Not necessarily. Many are, however.
Around my mid 20s. Hair loss started in high school.
You’re mine, and always will be.
You exist for my pleasure.
How are these doing?
Here’s the thing: Master type dominants tend to be somewhat needy themselves, which is one reason why they fit so well with slave type submissives. A sub who doesn’t have enough time for him, even for very legitimate reasons, will result in his needs not being met, and that’s frustrating.
That said, I’m rather surprised that he hasn’t through self-reflection discovered this underlying cause himself. There’s no valid reason to get angry with you, since your primary responsibilities as a mother are crystal clear. Nevertheless, he WILL feel the frustration, and that’s where the problem lies. This is an issue that he must resolve in his own mind because your hands are tied, and you cannot in good conscience act any differently. An honorable man will understand this. A disciplined man will find a way to cope.
I want to live in the world you create for me.
I want my world to have only room to serve you.
My world has borders that you set, rules that you frame and enforce, doors that you open or close.
My world contains only the things you let me have or use or see.
All pleasures and pain in my world come from you.
No one can harm me. Nothing can hurt me in this world but you.
I’ll make it clear every chance I get: I OWN YOU.
A boy knows how to listen to you.
A man knows when you need to shut the fuck up.
To love is to suffer.
Wait for me, dear. I’m coming home.
Once a slave, always a slave.
Up you go! Time to suffer.
A sadist is one who derives pleasure from inflicting pain/suffering on others. There are many kinds of sadists, however. Some just want to indiscriminately cause suffering. Others want to do so in a controlled manner. Some only do it in a sexual context. Others aren’t so picky. For some it’s more of a means to sate a hunger. For others, the hunger never subsides. For some, only a certain kind of person or relation will do. For others, it doesn’t matter.
A sociopath (psychopath) is an entirely different beast. They may also be sadists, but it’s entirely orthogonal to the psychopathy.
The problem is that almost all porn images out there fall to extremes, and lump certain things together. If she’s restrained inescapably (which I like), the image will invariably depict her in a brutal situation. If you want something more loving, the physical control aspect is dropped. You have to remember that porn tends to be produced by people of average to low intelligence, and so it ends up like a 2D caricature in an American sitcom: there’s little room for depth or nuance (or believability).
What’s in my stories is what I actually want. What’s in my picture feed is the best I was able to find.
The circumstances are complicated and I’m not going to explain why, but I won’t be able to indulge my sadistic side fully for a couple of weeks or so.
There’s nothing better than having her near.
They should be plugged when not in use. It stands to reason.
Such a beautiful reaction <3
I’ll let you in on a secret. For everyone I’ve ever gotten serious with, it started off platonic. When you start with romantic intent, you automatically don a mask based on what you think they’re looking for, and they always see through the ruse. This is why dating sites have such a low success rate.
Get out into the real world and hang around where there are dominant people. I’m not talking about BDSM clubs and the like; I mean a kung-fu death metal yogic pottery club or whatever. Getting to know someone in a shared interest context gives you a way to grow acquainted without having to resort to the sexual (which trivializes your encounter to the point that you’ll know nothing of each other’s true character).
I’ve met girls in the checkout line. I’ve met them at orchestras. I’ve met them in libraries. I’ve met them on hikes. I’ve met them through the blog (answering requests for advice). If you really want to trigger a dominant, ask him for help with something. Help getting up a difficult part of a climb. Help choosing something. Help with anything that takes long enough to warrant chatting while you do it. I’m not saying to manufacture an excuse; you’ll get into trouble soon enough. Just ask when you’re in need of help, because if you’re getting yourself out there, you have a much greater chance of being around a dominant when you inevitably get into trouble with something.
We’re not going to approach you, because that instantly makes it sexual and pointless. But give us an excuse and we’ll move in.
What’s mine is mine.
Like your typical submissive, you’re diligent but disorganised. Given a specific task, you go 110%. But deciding on what needs to be done, or making policy decisions, fills you with such anxiety that you shut down and nothing gets done. With someone telling you what to do, you flourish. Take that away and your life quickly degenerates into a huge mess.
She’s grateful for the opportunity to be my pleasure.
One of the many ways she brings me pleasure :)
There’s something so right about her place and my place.
In real life, a woman very rarely chooses to fight against a man several times stronger than her. The most common reaction is to comply, but wait for an opportunity to escape. So it would be easy to be gentle yet forceful, since we’d both know the consequences otherwise.
When you take in an adult pet, it takes them a long time to get used to you. You’re essentially “abducting” them out of their previous environment. You need to keep them locked indoors for the first few weeks until they accept their new home and get used to you as their caregiver. Humans are not much different, except that in humans we call it Stockholm Syndrome.
There are many means of control, and taking a woman is about control. So no, I wouldn’t use force in such a case. Rather, I’d make her put the chains on herself, making her complicit in her own captivity. The only chains that actually matter are the ones that bind her soul to mine.
Pretty much every bigger decision I’ve made. My choice of women, my farm, my diet, moving to California to start a company, taking up boxing… Basically my entire decision making process. Nobody has the balls to do this sort of thing. To them everything is like a ledger. Every action a risk. The true rewards are invisible to them. And I’m not about to change their minds because it means more for me.
Aww! Do they hurt?
I’ve been rendered destitute twice, had a few life threatening illnesses, and suffered major depression. I’ve lived with gang violence, been mugged, beat up, had my life threatened a few times, and lost three close family members to cancer. In the words of Edmund Blackadder, I have a degree from the University of Life, a diploma from the School of Hard Knocks, and three gold stars from the Kindergarten of Getting the Shit Kicked Out of Me.
But throughout everything, I’ve never doubted my abilities or my resolve. People call me crazy all the time for the things I do and the decisions I make (and I mean, literally, “you’re crazy”). The point I’m trying to make is that hard times and doubt will happen no matter what you do, so make sure you’re doing something you believe in, because believing in your cause will give you a strength like no other.
I’m getting a hunting license since deer are overpopulated in this area. I only hunt/fish for food. Trophies don’t interest me. Actually, no, I find them repugnant.
MREs are like TV dinners: made from untraceable sources, highly processed, and containing only basic nutrients according to some preconceived formula that is just as likely to be wrong as right. They’re useful as e-rations, but that’s about it.
Being happy with yourself isn’t a prerequisite to being happy with someone else.
I’ll continue with this blog no matter what happens.
It took 10 years because until recently, there wasn’t very much money spent on climate research, and the research itself was locked away in ivory towers with $10,000 price tags to access the studies.
The prognosis is more of the same extreme weather for the East coast. The Southern states will continue drying up. California will become mostly desert, similar to Arizona (except for the places that pipe water in at great expense). Agriculture is going to be really fucked up over the next 30 years. The middle states will remain mostly unchanged, but a bit drier. The Pacific Northwest will become a bit wetter, and will suffer a diminished version of extreme weather. Africa will continue drying up, as will the Middle East and India. Southest Asia will suffer similar problems to the Southeast coast of the USA. China is too totalitarian. South and Central America’s climate will remain relatively nice, but the political turmoil makes it ill-suited for a home base. The Caribbean will remain nice except for the hurricanes and political instability. Australia is drying up. New Zealand is too wet for my tastes, and too far out of the way. Europe is a big question mark. Nobody seems to know for sure what will happen to the climate there since it’s largely dependent upon the Earth’s winds, which are changing with the melting of the polar ice. Oh yes, and most of the coastal regions will get flooded.
It’s best to keep your training stimulating.
The trouble with depression is that it’s nearly impossible to understand it without having experienced it yourself. My advice would be to make sure any potential dom actually understands what depression is, and how to properly care for someone who suffers from it. Even a quick conversation along the way would help:
You: Actually, I suffer from depression. It gets pretty bad.
Him: That’s alright, babygirl. I can handle anything.
You: Have you had subs with depression before?
Him: Yeah sure.
You: How did you care for them?
Him: I cheered them up to snap them out of it.
*EEEEEEEEH!* Aww and he was doing so well!
You: How would you describe depression?
Him: It’s when you get really sad and can’t stop.
*EEEEEEEH!* Damn, missed it two-for-two!
… and so on.
If he can’t even describe how depression works and how it debilitates and saps your will, he won’t have the patience and compassion to care for someone who suffers from it.
Hmm… Well, liking to be spanked is not so far out of the mainstream nowadays… You could always start with that and see how into it he gets.
I’ve only had friends use it so far. I hadn’t thought of using airbnb, but that could be a neat idea! It does have power and water, and I have a pad with sceptic that the previous owners set up.
The only picture I’ll share for now is the one I posted earlier with me sitting in the chair. Consideration time is private time. That also means I won’t answer questions about her.
The salad pictures I just grabbed off the internet since I didn’t have a salad handy at the time, but any salads I make (and am teaching her to make) are very similar.
The main thing I look for is her attitude OUTSIDE of the bedroom. I’m looking for 24/7, which occurs mostly outside of the bedroom. Talking to me about all the sexy things you like won’t impress me.
That’s just me getting ahead in my mind and complicating the explanation. Usually she’d have responsibilities in her life and wouldn’t be able to just disappear for a 6 month stretch :p